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The best part about the holiday season is that the fear of new stuff has never been greater.
If you’ve ever been to a theme park or visited a theme campground, you’re probably familiar with the constant feeling of anxiety as you sit at your desk, staring at your laptop or screen, waiting for the next event.
But fear isn’t the only factor that plays a role in our holiday shopping.
We need to look at the people around us to see how they react when you come across unfamiliar or scary sights or sounds.
That means having a little bit of a conversation with yourself about what it is you’re trying to avoid, and if you’re feeling anxious, you can take steps to help yourself.
Ask yourself what scares you, rather than what scares other people, says Lisa Hagen, director of research and communications at the National Center for the Deaf.
People react differently to different kinds of things, she says.
For example, you might find the sound of a car horn unsettling when you’re driving, but not when you see a lion roaming around.
You can also think about the person next to you and how that person might react to a similar situation.
“That’s what makes it more difficult to identify the problem,” Hagen says.
If your reaction is similar, you should ask yourself, “Is there something that scares me?”
That can help you find the right answers.
Hagen suggests that you start with a list of scary items you think might scare other people.
For instance, “I don’t want to see people being shot,” or “I’m afraid of heights.”
If you feel like you can’t remember what scares someone else, ask yourself the following questions: Is there anything that I have to do that scares someone?
Does it feel familiar?
Does someone have the same reaction to the same thing as I do?
Is that something that I can do?
Does that make sense?
You can ask yourself these questions when you feel anxious.
For some people, the answers might surprise you.
If that happens, don’t be afraid to ask the question.
“When I’m having an anxiety attack, it’s a lot easier to ask if something scares me,” says Linda Kline, cofounder of the Anxiety & Behavior Institute.
“If it’s something that doesn’t feel familiar, I think I’m going to go with that.”
Try to stay calm, says Julie Kuchen, a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Michigan.
Kucen, who studies anxiety and stress in the workplace, recommends taking time out to think about your environment, her colleagues said.
If someone is walking by and they see you standing on the corner, they may be more likely to stop and stare at you, Kuc, who is also a member of the Autism Spectrum Disorders Society, says.
Kochen suggests that if you have a coworker who’s afraid of the dark, you may want to try asking yourself, is there anything out there that might be scary to someone else?
“It’s important to remember that a lot of people are going to react in ways that aren’t what they expect,” Kucner says.
“But when you are able to think in those terms, you’ll be able to see what they’re reacting to.”
Ask what you can do to get through the stressful week, says Jennifer Lauer, a professor of psychology at the New York University Stern School of Business.
People tend to avoid the task at hand, she adds.
So ask yourself what you’re going to do to avoid it.
For me, the challenge is to make sure that the first thing I do is to go to work, and then work.
But I don’t really know how I’ll get through that, Lauer says.
Instead, she suggests a “scheduled distraction” approach.
“For example, if you can come home and do a routine task, you won’t feel so anxious that you need to avoid doing something you really enjoy,” Lauer explains.
“Instead, you want to go home and have fun, have a relaxing day and enjoy your family and friends.
Look for the positive, says Hagen. “
Look for the positive, says Hagen.
In other words, “If you’re able to find the positive in this situation, then that’s what you need.”
In some cases, the solution might involve changing the way you interact with others.
In a 2014 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers showed participants pictures of people who had been fired and others who had not.
Then they asked participants to rate the perceived positive effects of having the fired employee or not.
They found that the fired employees perceived more positive effects, and those who had received no negative feedback rated themselves as more happy than the others. But the